Though sex toys have become very popular around the world, it is a popular belief that they are only for single, sexually frustrated or widowed women.
But many couples with a happy sex life are bringing toys into the bedroom just to ‘spice things up’. However, there are still some Jamaican men who seem opposed to the idea. Johnwas very offended when his wife suggested that they get a toy.
Since then, their love life has taken a dive he opined, “I feel like I am not adequate. Every time we are to have sex, I keep thinking about why she would want a dildo.”
Jonathansays it’s something he would recommend to any man to try. He told Flair that when the dildo was brought into his bedroom “she was hollering like a cheerleader.
“I would encourage men to try it. It’s about us having fun and I’m having fun when she is having fun. Watching her use it was one of the most erotic experiences of my life.”
But Walter is still on the fence about whether he would bring a sex toy into his 16-year marriage. “The first question I would ask is ‘why?’.” He admits that there will be thoughts of inadequacy and the male ego is the driving force. “You are introducing competition. Where those things are concerned, it’s different in a matrimonial bed than a girlfriend situation where you can experiment.” He notes that on the flip side, if it’s the man who brings it up, the wife would think he has been using it outside of their relationship. “Even if it’s not true, she will think that and have doubts. I would go ahead if it’s to please the woman, but don’t want to find that things start in the bedroom before you get there.”
Male ego
Like Walter, Jonathan admits that the male ego has a lot to do with it. But he notes, “If she likes it and it makes for a better sexual experience, why not? She will have an awesome time and she will be completely satisfied.”
He added that men should get over the idea of sex toys being competition, because they are machines and there is no way a man can compete with a machine.
He does not see sex toys as a competition. “Why would I feel a dildo is competition? It can’t hug her or say I love you.”
